Ms. Taken: Fake Engagement Rings
About six months ago, I purchased a ring from Ms. Taken. I love going out to sing karaoke, and my boyfriend isn’t a fan of how loud the bars can get when karaoke is in full swing. So, I go without him from time to time.
It almost never fails that if I am sitting by myself at a bar, I will get unwanted attention. Some would-be Romeo comes up, asks if he can buy me a drink, and starts attempting to talk to me. Being the smart person I am, I know precisely what this guy is after. He is attempting to purchase a night of affection or sex with alcohol and compliments. I refuse to play this game, and I will immediately tell the guy that I have a boyfriend.
The smart guys will back off right away. The dumb ones, however, will persist. I have heard so many awful things from men who are indignant at the fact that I have seen through their charade. These include,
- “Well, he must not love you very much if he’s not here.” Actually, he actively encourages me to go out and do the things that make me happy, even if they are things he doesn’t enjoy. THAT is how much he loves me, you nitwit. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean we are attached at the hip.
- “If I was your boyfriend, I would never have let a pretty girl like you go out alone!”, WOW! I didn’t realize that being an attractive female means that I should never leave the house unaccompanied! Did San Francisco institute Sharia law without me noticing?
And my personal favorite:
- “It must not be serious, I don’t see a ring.”
I hate attempting to justify my relationship to strangers, so I bought a fake engagement ring from Ms. Taken. In thinking about it further, I hate the fact that I feel I have to wear this ring even more than the outrageous comments. It speaks so much to the backwards “women are property” attitude that somehow persists in our society today. But the ring works. Once I slip on the “proof” that I am not looking for someone, I can sit at a bar, and I don’t have to deal with men who don’t understand that no means no.
Have any of my readers purchased a fake engagement ring? Would you ever consider purchasing one, or consider suggesting it to a female friend?