Monthly Archives: April 2012
I stopped listening to morning radio shows years ago. When I wake up, I want to listen to upbeat happy music, mostly to keep my brain from deciding to scale a full-fledged revolt at being up before the sun. I always became bored or angry listening to the inane or offensive patter of the morning show hosts. Dominic Dieter, who is part of the morning show in Cleveland, has taken offensive to a whole new level.
For reasons unknown, a father wrote a letter to Rover’s Morning Glory, the morning show on Cleveland’s WMMS 100.7, asking for advice about his teenage daughter. The father was concerned that his daughter is a lesbian, after seeing her kiss another girl. Dieter’s advice?
“You should get one of your friends to screw your daughter straight.”
I am so angry that I might explode in a fit of apoplectic fury. First of all, rape is never something to joke about. Secondly, corrective rape is a real thing. It happens all the time in South Africa, and I also happens frequently in the US. This guy needs to be fired. I am writing to the station (firstname.lastname@example.org), and to Clear Channel (email@example.com), the company that owns WMMS. I’m even lodging a complaint with the FCC. Won’t you join me? Here, I’ve even drafted it for you already:
Dear Gary Mincer and Bob Pittman,
Your employee, Dominic Dieter, a morning show host on Cleveland’s WMMS 100.7, is an abominable human being. On Friday, April 27th, in response to a letter written to the morning show, Dieter clearly incited and advocated the use of rape on a teenage girl who may be a lesbian. Broadcasting these words, “You should get one of your friends to screw your daughter straight” is not only incredibly offensive, but is illegal, immoral, and horrifying. Advocating the use of rape to attempt to “correct” homosexuality is unconscionable and reflects poorly on your company. GLAAD has already called for his suspension and a piece regarding the real harm that can come from parental rejection of LGBTQ youth, but I am going further. I am requesting his immediate termination.
If I have any readers in Cleveland, I would love to know what companies advertise on this morning show, because I would like to bombard with requests for termination as well. Let’s hit this company where it hurts: on their bottom line.
I read this article on the NYT recently, and I have seriously conflicted feelings about it. Ariane Friedrich is German woman who works part time for the police, and is an Olympic athlete. She recently received an unsolicited and completely inappropriate nude picture of a man she doesn’t know, along with a sexually explicit email. She posted his full name and the town he lives in on Facebook to publicly shame him for .
On one hand, I completely sympathize with her. I can understand how she must have felt when she received this message, and given her semi-celebrity status as an Olympian, she very likely receives them on a regular basis. Being forced to participate in this man’s sexual fetish, whether she liked it or not, is essentially mental rape. I am sure that she was outraged, angry, and felt violated. She lashed out.
On the other hand, this man clearly has no concept of what is and is not appropriate. Sending an unsolicited explict email and picture of yourself to a stranger is antisocial behavior, and he needs help. Unfortunately, the police generally are not concerned with violations of this nature, as there is no physical violence. There’s also the fact that this man shares a name with another person in his town. This other man did nothing wrong, and now his name is associated with a public shaming.
On my… foot, I guess, as I only have two hands, I know a man who has been falsely accused of inappropriate behavior. While his accuser has a history of publicly outing other people who she felt acted inappropriately, she did not name my friend. She did, however, spread her story around a conference they both attend each year, and my friend received some veiled threats from other men (along the lines of “I know what you did last year, and you’ll leave this conference if you know what is good for you”) until the conference organizers put a stop to it. While it wasn’t a public internet outing (as her others have been), the girl could have done this, again, and ruined a man’s life, again. I am thankful that this wasn’t the case.
What do you all think? Should Ariane have publicly shamed this man, or should she have let the government do their job?
Ideally, in every new sexual relationship, there is a period of time when you and your partner can sit down and discuss your expectations and boundaries in a frank and honest manner. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case. Read the rest of this entry
The movie Think Like a Man has de-throned The Hunger Games as #1 in the box office this past weekend. For those of you who don’t know, Think Like a Man is based off of a self-help and dating advice book by comedian Steve Harvey entitled Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment. I read this book a few years back, and had mixed feelings. Some of the advice given to women is sound, and other pieces are misguided. Read the rest of this entry
When you become a parent, one of the biggest parts of your new job is protecting your child. You’d never let your child sleep with a plastic bag in the crib; you’d never let him or her ride a bike for the first time without a helmet; and you would never just toss your child the keys to the car without teaching them how to drive it first. So why, then, are so many parents failing at protecting their children from the lies, misinformation, and danger of abstinence-only sex education? Read the rest of this entry
Last night’s Glee episode demonstrated once again why I love that show. Although the plot lines can be incredibly predictable, and the auto-tune often bothers me to the point of grinding my teeth, this show has been a great force for LGBTQ youth. Warning: Spoilers after the jump. Read the rest of this entry
After some of the responses to Wednesday’s post about the Sunk Cost Fallacy in relationships, I thought that I would take some more time to discuss how I define a successful relationship. Read the rest of this entry
Have you ever heard of the Sunk Cost Fallacy? It is an interesting economic theory that can easily be applied to dating and relationships. Read the rest of this entry
This past weekend, I was fortunate enough to have some one-on-one time with a lovely 13 year old young lady. We had a two hour long talk about sex, puberty, and relationships. I was able to answer all of the questions she had regarding these topics, and to give some information that she couldn’t get through school, and was too embarrassed to ask her family members. Read the rest of this entry