Thanks, Feminism!

I’ve been thinking a lot about “traditional” femininity, and I’ve come to one conclusion: I really suck at a lot of the things girls are “supposed” to do, and that’s kind of awesome.

I have more colors of eyeshadow and nail polish than anyone really should, but I am hopeless with things like makeup or doing my nails.  I keep thinking “oh, well, maybe if I have the right things, I will magically be able to look all pretty and feminine and girly!”  I subscribe to multiple versions of makeup grab bags, and I have at least 50 different makeup brushes.  I don’t know what I’m supposed to do with most of them.  I can’t do those cool smoky eye looks (or anything that goes beyond wearing one shade of eyeshadow, really, and even then it ends up looking uneven), I end up looking like a clown when I attempt to use powdered blush, and my at-home mani-pedis generally look like a 5 year old went crazy with the nail polish.

I also can’t do anything with my hair that goes beyond a ponytail, half ponytail, braid, or messy bun.  I am adept at washing and drying it, and my at-home touch ups on my hair color are passable.  I have been known to use Pinterest to find cute hairstyles, and then I spend two hours trying to get my thick, straight-as-a-pin hair into a cascading braid, or some other adorable up-do, before I ragequit in utter frustration.  Attempting to curl my hair is just a way for me to completely waste time.  Within 15 minutes that perfect curl is flat again, no matter if I use a curling iron, styling products, or hot rollers.

I am, however, a professional at walking in high heels without looking like I’m about to fall over.

As an adolescent, when I imagine most girls were figuring these things out, I was more interested in figuring out a cure for the profuse sweat that would pour out of my armpits whenever I was talking to a cute boy.  Thank god I was in middle school and high school when it was still acceptable to wear a flannel over your t-shirt, because I would stand there, horrified, as I felt the growing patch of wetness travel down my torso to my waist.  It was like my deodorant would magically evaporate in the presence of a cute boy.   It still does, sometimes.  Now I just carry a spare stick of deodorant in my purse and reapply as needed.

I hate cleaning and doing the laundry.  Right now, there are at least twelve coffee cups in my room, and I can’t be bothered to take them to the kitchen and wash them (sorry, housemates!).  I never make my bed.  I actually hate doing the laundry SO MUCH that I take it all to a wash-and-fold, and pay at least $40 once a month for someone else to do it for me.  Even then, I forget to put it away at least every other month.  I love to cook and bake, but I am terrifically lazy about purchasing ingredients for dinner before the local grocery stores close.

I have realized that the time I could spend on learning these things is better spent doing things like writing my blog or working on my book, reading, or spending time with friends (who could probably teach me about the makeup/nail/hair stuff).

I am fortunate that I live in a place and a forward-thinking culture where I am encouraged to better myself, instead of just looking pretty.  I am so thankful that Fiance doesn’t think my worth as a woman is directly tied to how clean I keep our living space, or having dinner on the table when he comes home from work.  My brain matters more than how I live up to the cultural standards of femininity.  And that’s pretty awesome.

Thanks, feminism, for creating that culture!

Posted on February 6, 2013, in Feminism, Personal Stories and tagged , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Sweating in social situations may not be as undesirable as you may think. The subtle smell of your sweat contains nonverbal signals. If you absolutely must use deodorant, make sure it’s actually “deodorant” and not “antiperspirant”; the latter works by literally blocking the pores of your skin with aluminium; aluminium accumulates in your body and is ultimately toxic.

  2. In recognition of your wonderful work I have nominated you for an award found here.

    http://thethingsiseeuphere.com/2013/02/24/the-award-winning-story/.

    Cheers.

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