I am a Feminist. Are You?
Oooh, that scary F-word. It breaks my heart to hear women say something supporting women’s rights, and then say “oh, but I’m not a feminist”, or, even worse “but don’t get me wrong, I’m not a feminazi”. There is a misconception that being a feminist means that you preemptively hate all men, that you are angry about feminist issues all the time, that you want to scream to the heavens as you burn your bra and declare that all sex between men and women is rape.
I don’t hate men. On the contrary, between my dad, boyfriend, and some of the lovely men I have the privilege to call my friends, I think that it can safely be said that I love men. I have surrounded myself with shining examples of men who are loving, kind, and treat everyone with the respect they deserve.
I am a feminist because
- I believe that I deserve to be paid the same amount as a man who has been doing the same job as I have for the same period of time.
- I believe that I deserve access to medically accurate information regarding my sexual health.
- I believe that I deserve to have my contraception covered by my health insurance, just like I deserve to have a broken bone covered.
- I believe that I have the ability to decide my own sexual partner or partners, and that derogatory terms for my sexuality qualify as verbal assault.
- I believe that I and my partner are the only ones who are responsible for deciding when I have a child, if ever.
- I believe that I deserve to walk down the street without being harassed.
- I believe that I have the right to decide my place in society. If I and my partner decide that I should be a housewife, then that should be acceptable and supported. If I decide to be the CEO of an international corporation and earn that title, then that should be accepted and supported.
- I believe that teaching women how to “not get raped” instead of teaching everyone “don’t rape” is a failure of our society.
- I believe that women and men are raped, abused, and exploited. I believe that this is a tragedy that is also a failure of our society.
- I believe that “look at what she was wearing”, “how much alcohol did she drink?”, and “well, she should take responsibility for putting herself in a bad situation”, are classic examples of rape culture, and these phrases should be removed from any discourse.
- I believe that books like Twilight and 50 Shades of Grey normalize and romanticize abusive and controlling relationships. I believe that holding these up as “romantic ideals” for young women creates a generation of victims.
- I believe that the cult of virginity is toxic.
- I believe that I have the right to expect that I am treated with respect, and that my stated boundaries are honored.
- I believe that everyone should have the right to get married, no matter what their sexual orientation may be.
These are just a few of the reasons that I am a feminist. Do you consider yourself a feminist? Do you agree with my reasons, or have a few of your own to add?
Posted on June 26, 2012, in Feminism and tagged abusive relationship, bad situations, dating, health, LGBTQ, politics, rape culture, relationships, safer sex, Sex, society, women. Bookmark the permalink. 20 Comments.